What Rory Gilmore Taught Me About Self Worth

Ever since you were a wobbling toddler, you wanted to go to Harvard. You wanted to become the next Hillary Clinton, or you’d settle for a renowned journalist. You worked your butt off. Went to all the schools necessary to land admission to your dream college, and when you got there, you did everything right only to be told by the leading guy in the newspaper industry that you don’t have what it takes to make it as a journalist.

Sound familiar ladies? This is the story of Rory Gilmore. If you were a loyal fan of the show, you know she dropped out of Yale [which she ultimately chose over Harvard], had a mini­ breakdown, got arrested, moved out of her house, and no longer talked to her mom, Lorelai [which again if you were a loyal fan of the show, you would know that was Stars Hollow shattering].

This happens to all of us – hopefully without the arrest and 300 hours of community service, but it happens to a lesser degree. Someone tells us what they think of us, and we believe them. We let their opinions dictate how we then think of ourselves, and in Rory’s case, she almost lost everything she had worked for because of it.

It may not be the case academically ­ we may be told we’re too chubby, too skinny, too short or tall, and we believe them.

Why?

Why do we do this? Why are we instantly saddened when we’re told we’re not good enough? Why is our day made when we get a “like” on a blog post? We’re seeminlgy never satisfied with a job well done; we rely on someone else to tell us, ‘good work.’ And then we’re satisfied.

We’re told to be our own person and not run our lives based on others’ opinions, but we often forget this little, golden gem of advice, which is unfortunate because this advice is life­changing. The day you stop letting others ruin your day, the day you’re confident in your skills and abilities, the day you’re satisfied with your work simply because you think you did a good job, is the day you’re free. This is the day you become your own person, you realize your self­ worth, and you become happy to be you.