Bridget is an actress turned film student turned blogger who has a weak spot for Gordon Ramsay, 50% off sales, and stay-in movie nights with her boo. She's passionate about helping women find and release their inner bougie goddess with the least possible cash offering.
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Like a little black dress, I have a little black blazer. (It’s not THAT little, but I’m trying to be poetic.) It’s one of those wardrobe staples that, I’d argue, every woman should have whether she’s a working woman or a homemaker. It’s versatile, neutral, and gives a touch of refinement to any outfit. Here are a few ways I like to wear my little black blazer:
The blazer to the right can be found here. AND All of the pieces in these looks are under $50. Mhhm. That’s right.
1. Dress It Down – If you go with a black blazer, get funky with a pair of colored skinnies! Throw on a fun patterned shirt underneath and your comfiest pair of gladiators. Funky, fresh and totally date appropriate.
2. Can You Say Job Interview? – Blazers can be a great staple in a working lady’s wardrobe. Instead of a Hillary Clinton pantsuit, try pairing your blazer with a pencil skirt and some simple but personal accessories.
3. A Little Girly – I’m not totally a dress kinda girl. BUT, I do have a few super comfy floral dresses that I’m always trying to find ways to add some edge to. The floral is feminine, fun and maybe a little flirty. That black blazer will add just the right amount of edge and structure.
These are just a few ideas. Instagram or Tweet a picture of your best blazer get up. Hashtag #BBBBlazer.
I am short. I didn’t hit 5 feet tall until my eighteenth birthday (True story). Although I am a member of the petite band of ladies, I have never been one of those small people who is constantly wearing massive heals to gain an extra inch or two. Just not how I roll. Also, I like when my feet don’t hate me at the end of the day. Shout out though, to those short, sassy ladies who can rock a three inch heel on a daily basis. I applaud you. But I will not join you.
Since I am not of the heel wearing persuasion, I have come to love, collect and appreciate a great pair of flats. I literally wear flats 90% of the week. And, because I am a collector, trust me, I have a pair for every outfit.
Here are a few things I look for when in the market for a pair of those dainty non-heeled shoes:
1. Price – Obviously. I’ll be the first one to admit that those gigantic bins of mass produced, multi-colored plastic flats at Forever 21 are tempting. I have given into that ten dollar temptation more times than I’d care to admit. But, if you want a great pair of flats that are going to last more than one season, you’re going to need to up your budget a little.
Not anything crazy, I’m talking $30 minimum. Now, if you really want to invest, there are flats around $60 to $100 dollars that, I hear, are far more comfortable and durable. I have a pair of cream colored Steve Madden’s that retail at $60 but I got them at TJ Maxx for $20. That’s. How I. Roll.
2. Practicality – When you’re trying a pair of flats on, ask yourself if you can see yourself wearing them everyday. Would they go with anything or just that one top you bought yesterday? If the answer is the second, walk away. I’m serious. Obviously this does force you to stick with neutral colors, but that’s not to say a great pop color flat won’t work with just as many outfits. (I have an awesome pair of bright red flats that are great with everything from my little black dress to dark wash jeans.)
3. Comfort – When you’re trying a potential pair on, if your first reaction is “Oh! These are so comfortable!” You’re golden. If your reaction is “Oh. They’re a little tight. But they’re SO cute!” Walk away. I’m serious.
Below are a few gems I’ve come across recently. Happy flat hunting!
We’ve all been there. We put on a brave face at parties but all women – whether it’s stay at home moms or girls who work a forty hour week and have thousands of Facebook “friends” – we all feel lonely at some point.
Part of what makes us humans is our desire for connection. We are social beings that need human interactions to feel wanted, loved, and appreciated. Not to get too philosophical, but I’m pretty sure that Aristotle guy was on to something when he wrote about it thousands of years ago. (Google: Humans are social beings – Aristotle)
Loneliness isn’t a situation it’s a feeling. And when I’m feeling lonely (I don’t know about you) I also feel unpopular, unwanted, always wrong and ugly.
There are usually a couple reasons I get the lonelys:
1. Somebody Hurts You – When the people closest to us hurt us, it cuts deep. And it’s all downhill from there. It starts the cycle of feeling that you can’t trust anyone, nobody understands you, you’ll never have a good friend, and you’ll never really connect with anyone.
2. Embarrassment – If you claim that you don’t get embarrassed, you’re lying. We’ve all been embarrassed at some point. I feel like an isolated weirdo when I’m embarrassed in front of people I respect or love and all I want to do is go under my fuzzy green blanket and sleep for forever.
So, that’s all good and depressing. So, how do you stop feeling lonely? How do you pull yourself out of an isolating funk that just won’t quit? I’ve got a few ideas but I’d love to hear some of yours.
1. Do Unto Others – Whether I want to admit it or not, loneliness is a very selfish feeling. “Nobody loves me.” “I am so alone.” “Nobody wants to be my friend.” One way I’ve found that helps get my happy juices flowing is to do something for somebody else. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy. Bake cookies for someone, do the dishes for your roommate, donate soup to a homeless shelter. Anything! Get outside yourself. You might be surprised how you feel afterwards.
2. Sing. Sing really, really loud – Don’t even try to pretend you don’t know what I’m talking about. (I keep a hairbrush in my car. Can’t sing if you don’t have a mic, right?) Bump up the jams and sing like you’ve got pipes like Aretha Franklin. It’s okay to laugh at yourself. You may even find that you’re smiling by the chorus. Baby, you’re a firework.
3. Time out – Take a deep breath. Heck, take an hour and try to objectively look at why you feel lonely. Realize that you won’t always feel like this. Think about those times you felt truly loved and appreciated. Write them down if the mood strikes you! As Viola Davis says so eloquently in The Help,”You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” I know it’s hard, but try not to forget it.
Side note, it’s okay to cry. I’m pretty sure some scientist said that you are actually getting rid of toxins when you have a good cry. Let it out. Pope John Paul II said, “It’s better to cry than to be angry, because anger hurts others while tears flow silently through the heart and cleanse the soul.” This guy knows what he’s talking about.
I will be the first one to admit that all of these are easier said than done. But just try it. Have other ways to break out of a lonely funk? #BBBLoneliness
Name: Natalie Scicolone Occupation: Assistant to Zanna Roberts Rassi, Marie Claire Senior Fashion Editor
B: How did you start working at Marie Claire? Natalie: I actually interned at Marie Claire my senior year of college. I didn’t think I got the internship – I stressed myself out to the extreme, but they just told me keep an open mind, and I ended up interning here and absolutely falling in love with this industry and especially Marie Claire. When I graduated college I moved back to the city, and it took me a few weeks, but something opened up at Marie Claire and I interviewed, and I couldn’t be happier as Zanna’s assistant.
B: What did you go to school for? Natalie: I originally went to school for journalism but then switched my major to retail and fashion and also minored in business and sales. It’s kinda the same realm.
B: Did you learn more in school or on the job? Natalie: I definitely learned more on the job. Stuff that I do in this job you can’t learn in school. I mean, school gave me a great base for being professional, and I obviously learned a ton and I applied myself…I was constantly learning at school, but what I do here is completely different and things that no one can really teach you.
B: How long is a normal day for you? Natalie: It is a lot of work – nothing like The Devil Wears Prada, though, because Zanna is an absolute angel. I’m the luckiest person alive to be working for her. But I enjoy working. There’ve been times where it’ll be late and Zanna will find out I’m working and she’ll be, like, “Go home!” So, it is a lot of work, but then again I love it so much that I don’t really think of it like that.
B: Have you ever cried on the job? (Or had to leave, cry, and come back. :)) Natalie: I probably shouldn’t admit this, but definitely. Anyone who tells you they haven’t cried is totally lying. We were packing for my first cover shoot with Zanna and it was during Fashion Week. There were so many things going on, and as soon as everyone left for the night, I was in the fashion closet by myself, and I just had this little breakdown. But sometimes it takes that breakdown and I snap out of it. Sometimes you just need to get it out of your system.
B: How do you get through your worst work day? Natalie: Honestly, I just remind myself that this opportunity is such an amazing one and I feel so lucky and blessed to have it. Even on the worst day I remind myself that this is only something I could have dreamed of a year ago. Reminding myself of that really helps me snap out of whatever mood I’m in and makes me focus.
B: You work for a pretty bougie magazine, and I’m sure that requires dressing pretty classy everyday. Do you have a favorite wardrobe staple for always looking your best? Natalie: I have this big obsession with denim shirts. I don’t know if people would consider it a staple but it’s definitely my staple. I have to remind myself that I don’t need a denim shirt in every shade of denim.
B: What’s the one piece in your wardrobe you couldn’t live without? Natalie: It’s hard to name one piece! I can’t live without my shoes and my jewelery. Especially live-in jewelry – things that I get that are nice and I keep on all the time.
B: Do you have any tips for girls who want to look like a fashion editor but can’t afford designer pieces? Natalie: It’s all about being really creative and open. There are so many pieces from runway that trickle down into mainstream that we see at our favorite stores like Zara, H&M, and Topshop. It’s about going out and looking. Guaranteed you are able to put a look together for under $100 if you take the time to really search. I think it’s definitely more available than people think!
B: Do you have any advice for other young women as they leave college and are looking for a job? Natalie: I feel like I could write a book! I think interning is really important. But besides that, one of the most important things is that it just takes one person to give you that chance. And when you get that chance you have to prove to them that they made the right decision. It’s about that one person saying, “I believe in her. I see something in her. I think she can do this.” So, when you get that chance, you really have to own it and not let it go.
B: What’s the best part of this time in your life? Natalie: Everything! I think the best thing is that this is a time in my life, or in anyone’s life, where we are so young that we can be or do or go wherever [we] want. This is the time when you get to make a name for yourself and it’s up to you how you do it. It’s refreshing to know that if you got an opportunity in London, there would be nothing stopping someone our age from doing it! Now’s the time when you can actually just go and not look back.
B: What are you struggling most with right now? Natalie: I think that if I had to classify a struggle I think it would be being away from my family and closest friends. That gets hard. But then I remind myself I’m in New York
City, I’m 23 years old… you know? That helps me get past that. But sometimes you just want that home cooked meal.
B: Who’s your biggest cheerleader?
Natalie: My mom. She is the most supportive and inspiring woman known to mankind. I moved here without anything lined up and I feel like most mothers would be like, “Oh, no, you’re not doing that.” But she completely stood by me and I can’t thank her enough for being a cheerleader for me.
B: What’s your dream gig? Natalie: To be honest, I’m still figuring it out. I don’t think I necessarily have a dream gig. At the moment, what I’m doing right now – being Zanna’s assistant – is my dream gig. I can’t even express how happy I am and how much I love working with her and for her. I’ll figure the rest out as I go.