Stay Thankful

At the start of November through Thanksgiving Day, the Levo League hosted a blog series entitled Giving Gratitude where Gen Y men and women shared what they were thankful for.

This was incredibly refreshing to come by. Giving thanks and recognizing all we have to be grateful for shouldn’t be a one-day celebration; it should last all year. Sure, Thanksgiving has its place, but how many of us recognize what we are thankful for besides when asked at Thanksgiving dinner?

I’m as guilty as the next person when it comes to this. In today’s world it’s easy to live our lives forgetting to recognize our daily blessings. Recently completing an undergraduate education, I’m especially thankful for the gift of higher education and the resources we have here to pursue it. I’m thankful for the experiences – good and bad – during those 3 years as they have shaped me into my post-grad self. I’m thankful for my college professors and friends who have equally helped me to grow.

At the bottom of one of the Giving Gratitude entries is the following quote: “Take the time to recognize who or what deserves your thanks each day.”

Who or what deserves your thanks?


4 Perfect Pairs of Flats

I am short. I didn’t hit 5 feet tall until my eighteenth birthday (True story). Although I am a member of the petite band of ladies, I have never been one of those small people who is constantly wearing massive heals to gain an extra inch or two. Just not how I roll. Also, I like when my feet don’t hate me at the end of the day. Shout out though, to those short, sassy ladies who can rock a three inch heel on a daily basis. I applaud you. But I will not join you.

Since I am not of the heel wearing persuasion, I have come to love, collect and appreciate a great pair of flats. I literally wear flats 90% of the week. And, because I am a collector, trust me, I have a pair for every outfit.

Here are a few things I look for when in the market for a pair of those dainty non-heeled shoes:

1. Price – Obviously. I’ll be the first one to admit that those gigantic bins of mass produced, multi-colored plastic flats at Forever 21 are tempting. I have given into that ten dollar temptation more times than I’d care to admit. But, if you want a great pair of flats that are going to last more than one season, you’re going to need to up your budget a little.

Not anything crazy, I’m talking $30 minimum. Now, if you really want to invest, there are flats around $60 to $100 dollars that, I hear, are far more comfortable and durable. I have a pair of cream colored Steve Madden’s that retail at $60 but I got them at TJ Maxx for $20. That’s. How I. Roll.

2. Practicality – When you’re trying a pair of flats on, ask yourself if you can see yourself wearing them everyday. Would they go with anything or just that one top you bought yesterday? If the answer is the second, walk away. I’m serious. Obviously this does force you to stick with neutral colors, but that’s not to say a great pop color flat won’t work with just as many outfits. (I have an awesome pair of bright red flats that are great with everything from my little black dress to dark wash jeans.)

3. Comfort – When you’re trying a potential pair on, if your first reaction is “Oh! These are so comfortable!” You’re golden. If your reaction is “Oh. They’re a little tight. But they’re SO cute!” Walk away. I’m serious.

Below are a few gems I’ve come across recently. Happy flat hunting!

Chicnova – $35


Forever 21- $17


Forever 21 – $25

Modcloth – $33



The Importance of Being Earnest… About Independence

You’ve just graduated college – or nearly so – and you’re ready to start the next chapter. Your life starts NOW. It is your time for independence!

However, for those of us who haven’t snagged our One-and-Only (and by that I mean career, boyfriend, a perfect pair of boots…) you gulped when you read: INDEPENDENCE. Is your nervous anticipation warranted? Yes. It is unique to you? No. The Independent Woman is a growing trend in this modern world.

At a time when our education begins to take shape outside the classroom, we begin to notice a need to find our place in this world. What does this planet need, in whole or in part? More importantly, what can we offer? As one friend put it: “What’s your voice?”

A fair and privileged few will stand akin to Charlotte “Charlie” Matheson of NBC’s hit, Revolution, armed and ready to forge our trail with a goal in sight but no map other than a self-promise. A few late bloomers might continue to skirt the edge of the wake, blinking at the boat’s spray and flowing with the bumps. Most of us, however, will feel more like ants under a magnifying glass – a frenzied struggle to be free, with unseen forces blocking our path.

The solution: Independence. Independence from vices, independence from fears, independence from safety and unwarranted caution. Independence from picking out the same thing on the menu. Independence from buying the same colored clothes, season after season. Independence from that cheap shampoo that you hate… try a new one on this month’s budget! Independence from your addiction to coffee, shoes, purses, buying music, procrastinating, telling yourself you need to lose 10 pounds, thinking about that boy.  Independence from your imaginary better self who goes to volunteer while you wave and say, “I’ll come next time.” Independence from the career hole you’ve carved for yourself, even if you’ve spent a fortune on education.

Be INDEPENDENT! Choose your own path, and have a reason! If there were no purpose behind the choices we make, they wouldn’t really be choices. So dare to be risky. (Not risqué, mind you—the accent makes all the difference, and I don’t mean etymologically).

American architect, theorist, author, and inventor Buckminster Fuller (you’d have to be brilliant with that name, right?!) once commented, “There’s nothing about a caterpillar that tells you it’s going to become a butterfly.”

The scary truth is we don’t know what our journey holds. But I’ll wager we could ALL agree with Confucius: A journey of 1,000 miles begins with a single step.



We’ve all been there. We put on a brave face at parties but all women – whether it’s stay at home moms or girls who work a forty hour week and have thousands of Facebook “friends” – we all feel lonely at some point.

Part of what makes us humans is our desire for connection. We are social beings that need human interactions to feel wanted, loved, and appreciated. Not to get too philosophical, but I’m pretty sure that Aristotle guy was on to something when he wrote about it thousands of years ago.  (Google: Humans are social beings – Aristotle)

Loneliness isn’t a situation it’s a feeling. And when I’m feeling lonely (I don’t know about you) I also feel unpopular, unwanted, always wrong and ugly.

There are usually a couple reasons I get the lonelys:

1. Somebody Hurts You –  When the people closest to us hurt us, it cuts deep. And it’s all downhill from there. It starts the cycle of feeling that you can’t trust anyone, nobody understands you, you’ll never have a good friend, and you’ll never really connect with anyone.

2. Embarrassment – If you claim that you don’t get embarrassed, you’re lying. We’ve all been embarrassed at some point. I feel like an isolated weirdo when I’m embarrassed in front of people I respect or love and all I want to do is go under my fuzzy green blanket and sleep for forever.

So, that’s all good and depressing. So, how do you stop feeling lonely? How do you pull yourself out of an isolating funk that just won’t quit? I’ve got a few ideas but I’d love to hear some of yours.

1. Do Unto Others – Whether I want to admit it or not, loneliness is a very selfish feeling. “Nobody loves me.” “I am so alone.” “Nobody wants to be my friend.” One way I’ve found that helps get my happy juices flowing is to do something for somebody else. It doesn’t have to be anything crazy. Bake cookies for someone, do the dishes for your roommate, donate soup to a homeless shelter. Anything! Get outside yourself. You might be surprised how you feel afterwards.

2. Sing. Sing really, really loud – Don’t even try to pretend you don’t know what I’m talking about. (I keep a hairbrush in my car. Can’t sing if you don’t have a mic, right?) Bump up the jams and sing like you’ve got pipes like Aretha Franklin. It’s okay to laugh at yourself. You may even find that you’re smiling by the chorus. Baby, you’re a firework.

3. Time out – Take a deep breath. Heck, take an hour and try to objectively look at why you feel lonely. Realize that you won’t always feel like this. Think about those times you felt truly loved and appreciated. Write them down if the mood strikes you! As Viola Davis says so eloquently in The Help,”You is kind. You is smart. You is important.” I know it’s hard, but try not to forget it.

Side note, it’s okay to cry. I’m pretty sure some scientist said that you are actually getting rid of toxins when you have a good cry. Let it out. Pope John Paul II said, “It’s better to cry than to be angry, because anger hurts others while tears flow silently through the heart and cleanse the soul.” This guy knows what he’s talking about.

I will be the first one to admit that all of these are easier said than done. But just try it. Have other ways to break out of a lonely funk? #BBBLoneliness