BLACKFRIDAY

Black Friday

All right, America. I think we have reached a new low. This year Black Friday deals started at 8pm… Thanksgiving day! Last year, the door busters started at 10pm. Does anyone see a problem with this or a growing trend that is only bound to get worse?

Let’s break this down. 8 pm on Thanksgiving evening. Families are at the height of their food comas, barely sipping down their evening coffee. Mothers, fathers, wives, husbands, sisters, brothers, sons and daughters had to face leaving their families earlier than ever to ensure the couponing queens of getting their anticipated deals.

This bugs me. And it should.

Our Christmas crazed society needs to calm down. Seriously and really – sit down, breathe, take a moment to realize what actually matters during the months of November through January (and all year) and calm down.

Stories cycled around the Internet and in the news 72 hours prior to Black Friday spotlighting the die-hard shoppers who were camped out in front of Best Buys throughout the country. They set up tents, PS3s, TVs, and anything else that would entertain them until doors opened Thanksgiving evening.

Really?

Your discounted Samsung Galaxy S III won’t fulfill as you as much as you might think it will. The silky robe you’ve been eyeing for months will be there tomorrow. Put away the Target ads and grab a piece of pumpkin pie.

As we enter and exit college, we millennials have a responsibility. The millennials who are going to become wives and mothers, husbands and fathers, must set a good example for their spouses and children more than ever during these holiday seasons.

People die on Black Friday. People are trampled. Employees are yelled at. And this year was no exception. A YouTube video surfaced from Black Friday morning at a Kansas Victoria Secret showing hundreds of people crowded around the storefront prior to opening. People were nudging and trying to bypass the security guards. All to get some ‘Pink’ sweats. The employee was tearing up threatening to not open the store because ‘it was scary.’

No gift is worth that. Something worth everything is spending the evening with the people who woke up at the crack of dawn in preparation for the meal you just devoured. And admit it, it was the most tender bird you have ever eaten. Offer to take clean-up duty, get your parents dessert, and don’t forget hugs and thank you’s.

Those little things, the little acts of kindness, will make whomever you were going to give that Samsung Galaxy S III much, much happier.

As an inspirational quote found on Pinterest once said…

“Never get tired of doing little things for others; sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts.”

Exercise

Why Exercise Will Lead To Success

Exercising at the crack of dawn. It just sounds horrible. I can already hear the alarm going off for the third time…

The reality of jumping out of bed with plenty of time to get our morning workout in before rushing off to work teaches us discipline. Every time our alarm clocks ring and we get out of bed greeted by our Nikes, and we do not succumb to the pressure of hitting the snooze button, we grow. Whether it is some Pilates, a jog, a walk on the treadmill, or a full- fledged workout at the gym, it’s worth the 7am wake up call.

It teaches us how to manage time. It undoubtedly builds structure in our lives. Having a workout routine helps to keep our heads clear and our lives balanced. If we live our personal lives in a way that nurtures growth and healthy habits, these attitudes and disciplines will carry over into our careers.

Best of all? It helps us to grow as individuals, and the individuals who know how to take care of themselves in their personal lives are the individuals who find not only success but fulfillment as well.

Have a workout routine that works for you? Tips on how to fit a workout into a hectic lifestyle? Let’s hear it!

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Chivalry Is Dead And We Have Killed It

It seems like everytime I get on Facebook there is meme after meme talking about how all guys are jerks and chivalry is dead. They may be a little dramatic, but I would agree that there is truth to the idea.

It used to be that every man, starting when he was old enough to do so, held the door for a lady (Yes, “lady”. You reap what you sow, right?). Chairs were pulled out and jackets were put around the shoulders of a lass right and left. Now if your date does anything that can be construed as chivalry, you’re ready to elope before dessert.

I’m no expert when it comes to those days gone by but I think most ladies have first hand experience on both sides of the chivalrous coin.

So what happened?

I won’t get into that crazy psychology jargon. But I will say that maybe all is not lost. Maybe the remnants of gentlemanliness still remain. Many will attest to the fact that he is a rare breed of gentleman but when you find him, you’ll discover he was well worth the wait. (But that’s a tangent).

But back to those gentlemanly remnants. Of course, a man should open the car door for his date and he better have asked her Dad for permission (See He Should Ask Your Dad First).  But we don’t live in a world of soda fountains, petticoats and Lucky Strikes. We’ve got Facebook, iPhones and 3D movies. So maybe the chivalry that goes into this tech high world is a little bit different. Maybe it’s opening doors and a good morning text message. Just a thought. Do you think we need to bring back chivalry?

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Introducing: Women You’ve Never Heard Of

Let’s talk about great women. Women who did incredible things, who broke barriers, who looked stunning doing it. The Joan of Arcs, the Gertrude Ederles, women like Margaret Thatcher and Rosa Parks. These icons have inspired generations of young women to never give up, to stand for something, and to do great things.

But we aren’t all supposed to courageously defend the Falkland Islands, swim the English channel (Who’d want to do that?), or liberate our country from English domination. If every women was called to do that, a lot of incredibly valuable things would never get done. We won’t all be burned at the stake before age twenty, but what young woman doesn’t need to be courageous moving away from home, starting her first job, or having her first child? Maybe I’m going out on a limb here, but just because those actions aren’t written in the history books, doesn’t mean that they are any less valuable.

The women who do make it into the history books were given incredible opportunities to use their gifts and talents, but just because our circumstances are less glamorous doesn’t mean we should live our lives with less fortitude, love, and perseverance.

Every moment we are given is a gift, right? Shouldn’t the things we do in those moments be done with purpose and conviction regardless of the task?

The incredible Mother Teresa said, “We cannot all do great things, but we can do small things with great love.” Yeah, she won a Nobel Prize, but, before that, she was just a little nun from a tiny town in Albania. And she did small things with great love.

So, let’s get the discussion started. We are dedicating this column to women who have done incredible things. Maybe you’ve never heard of them, maybe you have. Maybe you’d like to tell us about a woman you know who is doing incredible things with humility, love, and generosity and expecting nothing in return. Here it is. The column of Women You’ve Never Heard Of.