After writing my first post about loneliness, I realized that there were a few things I wasn’t able to touch on. So, keep going with me on this one.
Here’s the scenario: You just graduated from college. You’ve moved to the big city to kick ass, take names and follow your dreams. This was what kept you going through finals and senioritis. Life is happening. Right. Now. This is how it works. You’re not allowed to feel lonely or isolated, right?
When I moved away from home, I didn’t know a soul. New city, new people, and a new chapter in my life. It was all supposed to be fun and exciting! It was… for the first week or two. But after a while, all I really wanted was a hug from my Dad and my favorite food from Mom. It seemed so juvenile to me at the time and it was certainly part of growing up. But I think homesickness and being away from the people and places you love can be very isolating. It’s still a feeling, but those situations when we are separated from familiarity are certainly instances that lead us to feel oh so alone.
Tangent: I remember watching Bridget Jones Diary and that part when she’s on the couch belting out “All By Myself”, I just kept thinking, “That’s me. That’s so, so me!” (See picture above)
So, what’s the fix here? When you are actually alone, don’t have many friends yet, and just want to go home. Well, here are my thoughts.
1. Home – As Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros said, “Home is wherever I’m with you.” Obviously, the people you love aren’t with you or you wouldn’t be homesick. BUT, try bringing home to you. Try whipping up some of your Dad’s crepes, watch your Mom’s favorite movie or put on that t-shirt you stole from your sister. For me at least, things like that bring a smile to my face and a warm feeling in my guts that no matter where I am, those crazy people are still loving me.
2. Stay busy – If you’re sitting in your room thinking about how alone you are, chances are, you’re just going to keep feeling… alone. Take it from James Brown and, “Get up offa that thing!”. Go for a walk in your new surroundings. Find local spots that you’ll love to show your family when they visit. Take a pilates class! Meet people! Go to church! Interact with humans and who knows, you might even make an awesome friend or two!
That’s all I’ve got on this one. I’m off to that pilates class…