Thanks, Dr. Meg Jay

You may have heard about a woman by the name of Dr. Meg Jay and a TED talk entitled ‘Why 30 is Not the New 20.’

It’s causing quite a stir.

Why?

Dr. Jay is endearing and genuine and is obviously invested in helping millennials make the most out of their 20s.  I was grateful that someone was expressing concern for my future in a world drenched with the ‘you’ve got time’ attitude.  I loved it.  I loved it so much that I shared it expressing that I wish every 20 something could see it.  I loved it so much that I watched it again with my fiancee later that night.

The days following, I started to see articles breaking down Jay’s talk disagreeing with her, calling it ‘1950s’ and saying we don’t need these added pressures of ‘picking our family now,’ ‘working on our marriage before we have one,’ and gaining ‘identity capital’.

Really?  ‘Cause I’m pretty sure we do.  And we shouldn’t look at them as ‘added pressures.’

Sure, we live in a time where millennials get the bad rap of being lazy, so we’re seemingly being yelled at [perpetually] to get off our asses, ‘lean in’, ‘claim your 20s’, and ‘pick your family’.

Oh.  And do it all now, while working the night shift trying to make next month’s rent.  Yes.  We’re stressed.  Yes.  We are overwhelmed, but that doesn’t mean we should or can afford to ignore these realities.  It also doesn’t mean we need to wake up tomorrow, marry the first guy we see, and settle for the easiest, most opportune career move that may come our way.

We simply must think about it.  We should care about our future enough to give it thought now.  What do we want to do with our lives?  Who is the guy we want to marry?  Am I wasting time dating around just to date around?  And if the answer is yes, then do something about it.

Jay’s talk was an effort to help millennials realize our potential.  That, if you’re into art but have been waiting tables for the past three years, it is possible to change directions and go somewhere great.

That’s a message I’m happy to get behind.