I don’t really care for New Year’s resolutions. The term resolution, if you look it up in a Webster’s dictionary, is the act of answering, solving, or mending. So to me, making New Year’s resolutions makes me think that there have been problems with how I have lived in the past year, and discounts accomplishments made rather than embrace that each year is a process and progression. I also don’t like the idea of waiting until the end of the year to start putting change into motion if there is a problem. If there is a cause for unhappiness, I think it should be dealt with immediately.
I do like to meditate on what goals or themes I’d like to accomplish in the new year. That may sound just like resolutions to you, but to me they are so much more. To me, goals are gifts that I am going to earn and give to myself. They are going to center me in my work and personal life and help me prioritize my time, as well as force me to check in with myself on a quarterly basis to review my progress. I also limit them to three or less; for 2014, I have two.
Check out mine for 2014:
1. My biggest, most important goal for 2014 is to give myself more space. I have outgrown my apartment. I now require more space so that I can find quiet privacy behind a closed door that isn’t the bathroom, a place to sit in the sun and enjoy my tea and book. I also need to allow myself to gain mental space, to allow myself moments of nothing without guilt and instead be content with staying still, alone, and at home.
2. The second is much more concrete but less important than the first. I want to earn $100,000 in 2014. That may sound like a lot, but I’ve looked at what it will take and it’s not an impossible goal. The truth is that it is less about the dollar amount and more about the financial stability and what I know I will do with what I earn.
Now the true discipline is to remind myself every day of 2014 that these are what I want to focus on. I do that by including them as affirmations at the end of my morning journaling. To write affirmations, the sentence assumes that you have or are the goals that you have set for yourself. For example:
I have physical and mental space to grow into.
I have earned $100,000 this year.
Many of you will probably ponder over what change you would like to conjure up this next year. I challenge you to make it something positive for yourself and turn it around into an affirmation. For example, if you are looking to lose weight, make it less about being overweight and more about how you positively feel/are or what you do. (i.e., Your affirmation should read “I am healthy,” or “I cycle 3 times a week,” not “I am not fat.”)
Remember, you don’t need mending or to be fixed. You are a work in progress and that’s perfect.