Something Old Something New

You Are Going To Die

I know, I know. That’s the most depressing title ever. Who wants to read a blog post about death?! Bleh. And why is it in the something old/ something NEW section! Idiot.

Just hear me out.

The ancient Romans used to write “MM” on the bases of statues and tree trunks. The initials stood for the latin phrase Memento Mori which translates, “ Remember your mortality” or “Remember you will die.” This wasn’t meant to be morbid. It was meant to bring perspective to their lives. Hate to be the bearer of bad news but, we are all going to die. Memento Mori was a mental tool to keep them in check. To remind themselves to not fear the unknown and come to terms with their own mortality.

As a whole, our culture fears death.  We are told to eat healthy, take care of ourselves, maybe get a little nip and tuck here and there, all in the hopes of prolonging our lives as much as possible. But as the saying goes, “no one gets out alive.” I’d argue that many fear death because they believe that’s it. Once you’re gone, you’re gone. But I believe that there is a life more beautiful than this one waiting for me once I’m gone and buried under the strawberry plants. Gotta work to get there and God knows I’m trying.

So, what’s my argument? Let’s bring back death. I don’t mean skeleton outfits and zombies. I mean Memento Mori. Remember you are only human. Live life to the fullest. I’m not talking bungee jumping and cheap thrills. I mean really doing every little thing we do with conviction, purpose, and love.

In the commencement speech given at Stanford, Steve Jobs touches on this very topic. “I have looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself: “If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?” And whenever the answer has been “No” for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” Smart guy.

Let’s do it. Let’s do great things. Let’s love with everything we’ve got, every moment that we’ve got. Your life is a gift from the Guy who made you. Don’t screw it up. Don’t take it for granted.

We are all going to die. Go out with a bang.

So, show me what you’ve got. How do you remind yourself to live in the present moment and be the best human being you can possibly be? Have a great saying, catch-phrase or quote? How do you Memento Mori?

Chivalry Is Dead And We Have Killed It

It seems like everytime I get on Facebook there is meme after meme talking about how all guys are jerks and chivalry is dead. They may be a little dramatic, but I would agree that there is truth to the idea.

It used to be that every man, starting when he was old enough to do so, held the door for a lady (Yes, “lady”. You reap what you sow, right?). Chairs were pulled out and jackets were put around the shoulders of a lass right and left. Now if your date does anything that can be construed as chivalry, you’re ready to elope before dessert.

I’m no expert when it comes to those days gone by but I think most ladies have first hand experience on both sides of the chivalrous coin.

So what happened?

I won’t get into that crazy psychology jargon. But I will say that maybe all is not lost. Maybe the remnants of gentlemanliness still remain. Many will attest to the fact that he is a rare breed of gentleman but when you find him, you’ll discover he was well worth the wait. (But that’s a tangent).

But back to those gentlemanly remnants. Of course, a man should open the car door for his date and he better have asked her Dad for permission (See He Should Ask Your Dad First).  But we don’t live in a world of soda fountains, petticoats and Lucky Strikes. We’ve got Facebook, iPhones and 3D movies. So maybe the chivalry that goes into this tech high world is a little bit different. Maybe it’s opening doors and a good morning text message. Just a thought. Do you think we need to bring back chivalry?